A first meeting doesn’t need to be perfect. It only needs to be honest and comfortable, so that both of you can decide whether to meet again.

Before you go

  • Confirm the time, place and who will be present
  • Choose a public, easy-to-reach place
  • Read their profile again so you remember the details
  • Dress neatly and comfortably — be yourself

Good topics to start with

Talk about work, hobbies, favourite food, travel and what family means to each of you. Open questions keep the conversation flowing.

Put your phone away. Full attention is the best first impression you can make.

Topics to save for later

Salary details, past relationships and dowry-related topics are best avoided in a first meeting. Dowry is illegal in India — any demand is a serious red flag.

After the meeting

Share your honest impression with your family and take a day to think. There is no need to decide on the spot.